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Woman victim: The abuse just had to stop

Mae (not her real name) is a victim of verbal abuse by her ex-boyfriend, whom she thought would be someone she could love and spend the rest of her life with. But she started to think twice about that dream when he started to abuse her emotionally and verbally.

Sige lang ko niya siyagitan ug makasakit nga mga pulong – nga wala kuno koy pulos. Iya kong paka-ulawan sa kadaghanan ug atubangan sa iyang mga barkada (He would shout hurtful things to me – that I was worthless. He would ridicule me in front of the public or when he is with his friends,)” she recalls.

Sa pila ka tuig, iya kong gi-abusar. Ug tungod niana halos mu-tuo na ko nga basin tinuod pud iyang ginapamulong nako. Gikaminusan na pud nako akong kaugalingon (for years, he had been doing that to me. And because of that I started to believe that maybe he was right. I felt ashamed about myself.)”

After being constantly harassed and abused by her ex-boyfriend for almost four years, she finally took the courage to report her case to the authorities.

Naay gamay nga tingog sa akong huna-huna nga gasulti sa ako nga gikinahanglan na gyud nga maundang kini – nga gikinahanglan nako depensahan akong kaugalingon sa legal nga pamaagi. Ang katong tingog maoy naghatag kanako ug kaisog nga mu-report sa otoridad (there was deep voice inside me telling me that this has to stop – that I have to fight for who I am, legally. That voice gave me the courage to finally report my case to the government authorities).”

While her case is currently being handled by the DSWD and the courts, she is now residing at the Regional Haven for Women run by the Department for adult women under very difficult circumstances.

Nakita nako ang akong panimalay dinhi nga nagpahinumdum sa ako nga naa koy pulos – nga ako adunay katungod (I have found a home here where I am reminded that I am not worthless at all, that I am somebody with rights),” Mae says. “Kumpara niadtong mga niagi nga mga tuig, makaingon gyud ko nga arang-arang na ko sa akong gibati ug sa spiritwal nga kabahin (compared to what I have been through for the last few years, I could definitely say that I am getting better emotionally and spiritually).”

Mae is one of the 52 women who are currently residing at the Haven today, receiving counselling, psychological therapy and even medical interventions, while their cases are still being handled. The residents also receive livelihood trainings and seminars to prepare them for their reintegration to their families and communities.

Rosanel Pague, Center Head for the Haven, believes that a lot of women are still out there who are experiencing abuse and exploitation because they are too ashamed to admit that they were victimized. “The first step is to report their case and seek counselling from social workers or from spiritual leaders. Reporting their case is just one of the things that we need to do to stop violence against women.”

Kailangan gyud sila musumbong sa mga otoridad nga gi-abusar sila (they need to report to the authorities that they were abused),” Mae says, referring to the women victims who are too ashamed to do so. “Kay kung dili, magpadayon gyud sila nga magpuyo sa kapildihon ug sa kasakit (because if not, they will continue to live defeated and violated).”

Written by Charmaine P. Tadlas, DSWD

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‘4Ps scholars become academic achievers’

Cagayan de Oro City — Pantawid Pamilyang Pilipino Program beneficiaries are now proving to the public that they are worth the government’s investment.

Pantawid Pamilya beneficiaries John Paul Ambaic, 17, and Mae Ann Ternate, 17, are among the eleven academic achievers of the 56 grantees of Expanded Student Grants-in-Aid Program for Poverty Alleviation (ESGP-PA) who were declared by MSU-Naawan as awardees for the 1st semester of the school year 2014-2015.

In a simple ceremony inside the campus’ function house, the university administrators conferred the award with the presence of all Pantawid Pamilya college scholars, DSWD and other stakeholders during the recently concluded ESGP-PA Family Day on February 27, 2015.

A spark of hope

John Paul, a native of Barangay Mahayahay, Manticao, Misamis Oriental and a freshman student of MSU-Naawan taking Bachelor of Science in Secondary Education, Major in Mathematics, is ‘thankful to the national government, especially to DSWD, for giving me a chance to achieve my dreams.”

Holding back his tears while talking and sitting beside his mother, John Paul disclosed that when he graduated from high school, he had doubts that we he would be able to attend college because his parents could not afford to pay for the tuition fees.

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Now that he is a Pantawid college scholar, John Paul said he is assured of his future. “Makatabang na gyud ko sa akong mga manghod ug ginikanan kung makahuman ko.” (I can help my younger siblings and parents if I finish my studies.)

John Paul is the eldest of three Ambaic siblings, a fate that made him realized that he has a responsibility to finish studies and help his younger siblings finish their study as well.

John Paul’s mother, Lucel, also shared that having his son finish a college degree would mean that  supporting the whole family to lift out from poverty is possible.

With the high expectations coming from his parents, John Paul is not only determined to finish his studies, but, determined to maintain academic achievement.

No more promissory notes

Mae Ann feels a sigh of relief knowing that she will no longer be making promissory notes to the school registrar and cashier after being placed under ESGP-PA this second semester.

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Mae Ann, resident of Barangay Gimaylan, Libertad, Misamis Oriental, disclosed that her excellent performance in academic is not guarantee her to finish her studies because her parents could hardly send her to MSU Naawan, a state university in Misamis Oriental, due to financial instability.

Now that she is a scholar, Mae Ann assured her parents and MSU Naawan Board of Regents that she will finish her study with flying colors.

A freshman Bachelor of Science in Information Technology, Mae Ann said ‘maka-relax na jud ko, maka-focus nako sa akong pagtuon.’ (I feel relaxed and I can focus on my studies now.)

Third of the four Ternate siblings, Mae Ann considers Pantawid Pamilya as an instrument of the national government to help poor deserving students achieve their dreams. “Gihimo jud nga instrumento ang Pantawid Pamilya aron makatabang sa mga pobre.”

ESG-PA is a college scholarship program of DSWD, Commission on Higher Education and Department of Labor and Employment for Pantawid Pamilya beneficiaries.

In Northern Mindanao, there are 2,037 scholars under the Program enrolled in eight CHED accredited state college and universities.###smu

Written by Oliver Badel Inodeo, DSWD Northern Mindanao

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